Why Your Son Throws Like A Girl!

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  1. David Wells

    August 7th, 2013 at 3:00 PM

    I used to wonder why my oldest son threw like a girl while my youngest son threw rockets. The simple reason is my oldest didn’t start throwing until T-ball, at age 6. My youngest son was throwing everything while still in the crib, and byT-Ball at the age of 4 was throwing harder then many Little Leaguer. My youngest son and I played catch ever since he could walk. It was better than him throwing everything in the house. Girls tend to start athletics at 6 or later. By then, the natural instinct on how to throw a ball has passed. A girl, if they start at two, will throw like a boy. A boy, if they start at 6, will throw like a girl. My oldest son worked like a dog when he was 12 to learn to throw, and by All-Stars was throwing 65. But it was never natural. It was hard work. It wasn’t fun. My youngest son just turned 14 and was clocked in the mid-80’s. It’s all natural and he does it without thinking. It’s fun. He still wants to throw every day.

    Agree with your premise. Start throwing early. And often.

  2. Lantz

    August 7th, 2013 at 5:04 PM


    Thanks for commenting, like your thought process!


  3. tom

    August 7th, 2013 at 3:35 PM

    Great article but where was this 8 years ago? My son is 13 and had a very successful 12U season. He got overlooked during the 13U tryout season due to lack of arm speed (ball velocity/distance). Reading the articles on your site it appears that poor arm action is the reason. Can arm action be improved/learned?

  4. Lantz

    August 7th, 2013 at 5:03 PM


    That doesn’t necessarily equate to arm speed. There are many factors involved in velocity/arm speed. Arm action can be improved or influenced through efficient mechanics, intent to throw hard. Arm action’s two biggest influencers are tempo (moving faster) and the action of the center mass (top of thigh to belly button). If your son is struggling with velocity, I would spend time trying to throw harder.

    Hope this helps,

  5. Coach Paul

    August 12th, 2013 at 2:09 PM

    Just last year, I found myself throwing softly to my 9 1/2 year old daughter. If I threw harder toward her, she would step to the side and catch the ball exclusively on her glove side. I tried to throw everything to her throwing side to make her adjust but it didn’t work. I got creative and purchased a face shield to take away some of the fear for her. She almost immediately started to catch the ball the proper way.

    The reason why I’m posting on this thread is due to another side effect of getting her the face mask. I felt more confident that she would not get hurt and I found myself throwing harder to her. She, in turn, began to throw harder back to me.

    After nearly two seasons of having this mask, she has the strongest arm on her team and made her league’s all star team as a left side infielder. Not to mention she’s very skilled with the glove because she has no fear of the errant hop.

    Seeing someone throw harder definitely gives her the template to emulate. She enjoys throwing harder than most of the girls in her league. It gives her a sense of pride.

  6. Goody

    August 25th, 2013 at 10:26 PM

    Having worked with softball players over the last 10 years with throwing issues, the number one problem with them, when it comes to throwing, is that they do not know how to externally/internally rotate their arms into release. That is why they throw like girls and look like the woman depicted above in the article. There is no way that woman can internally rotate her arm to throw the ball and get it to her target. Her only choice is to push the ball. You cannot throw anything with external/internal rotation if your elbow is pointed towards your target. The thing is, if they are taught the 3 most important parts of throwing: 1) scapular loading 2) scapular unloading, and 3) external/internal rotation of the upper arm, they will throw exactly like a boy. And not just an average boy, but a damn good one. I guess I don’t quite understand why there are coaches who feel that one cannot change a players throwing motion even when the player is 17 or 18. If we can’t change throwing motions then we probably shouldn’t be messing with players hitting motions. My experience has been that players, young and old, can be taught to change their throwing motions without any ill effects. It takes hard work and a lot of repetitions, but as is in all aspects of life, if it’s worth doing, then it’s worth working at it. And, BTW, these same drills that Paul Nyman had shown in is his earlier work such as Rotational Throwing for Numbies can teach anybody how to throw the #@$% out of the ball, both guys and gals.

  7. A dad

    September 29th, 2013 at 6:30 AM

    What is wrong with you people? Just teach your young child to have fun. Stop trying to over-promote and over-coach everything. The author here is a jerk. These skills are absolutely not necessary at a young age. I have taught many kids many skills from early ages to teen-agers. Starting early only makes your kids hate sports when they do become teen agers. Give it a break already. Some skills you cannot developer anyhow. They either have it or they don’t. No matter how much you make them practice and throw.

  8. Lantz

    September 30th, 2013 at 1:35 AM


    First thanks for commenting. “Stop trying to over-promote and over-coach everything.” This comment makes me think you didn’t read the article, what am I promoting and how am I over coaching. In fact, the coaching is limited, “Throw it as hard as you can!” doesn’t ring out as over-coaching.

    “Starting early only makes your kids hate sports when they become teen-agers” I can see your point but don’t you think thats a very sweeping generalization?

    “Some skills you cannot develop anyhow” Which ones? If you want to increase your likelihood of developing these skills I would suggest you read the article again and learn the importance of developing these movement patterns at an early age. Secondly, how do you know which ones you can or cannot?

    “They either have it or they don’t” That comment gets under my skin. I’ve heard way too many coaches use this as an excuse. It’s true to some extent but why would you ever place a tag on a kid of “not” having it.

    It sounds like you’ve had a bitter experience with instruction.


  9. Jack

    January 16th, 2014 at 5:12 PM

    I have a grandson, 14. He will be trying out for baseball soon and while he’s played for years he still throws more like a girl than a boy. I hurt for him when a ball is hit to him in the outfield because his throwing is so limited by the way he throws. I was a pitcher and infielder when I played and didn’t have any problems with throwing a baseball. How do I begin trying to help him without hurting his feelings?

  10. Lantz

    January 19th, 2014 at 1:58 AM


    I would suggest maybe throwing a tennis ball with him? From the throwing perspective, I would just suggest he throw as much as possible.


  11. Chris

    March 23rd, 2014 at 6:54 PM

    Great article, Thank you!!

    Loved your feedback on the comments too, you are very patient.

    Chris …… M.D.

  12. Lantz

    March 24th, 2014 at 12:49 AM


    Thanks for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it.

    Haha…. comes with the turf.


  13. A girl and is proud of being one

    November 1st, 2014 at 8:24 PM

    Nothing is wrong with throwing like a girl. I hate it when people say their son throws like a girl. It makes me sick. I am a girl, so how else am I supposed to throw? Also, the author said his daughter throws like a girl. Well, think about it. A female of course will throw like a female. She’s a female. Sure men and women have different ways of throwing, but there is no need to make fun of it.

  14. CoachPaul

    October 24th, 2015 at 12:14 PM

    Update: I posted a couple of years ago on this thread because I thought it was spot-on. My daughter is now a catcher. She loves being involved in every pitch, blocking errant pitches, and she’s addicted to throwing out runners. If you have watched any 12 or 13 year old girls play softball, you know how rare it is to catch runners stealing second base. Opposing teams do not even attempt to steal third. My daughter still has the strongest arm on the team and made league all-star as a catcher. All from throwing hard from the beginning.

  15. Matt Achey

    October 25th, 2015 at 2:05 AM

    Your article is pathetic, sexist and demeaning to girls. Regardless of your intentions or meanings, saying that when somebody doesn’t do something well, they are doing it “like a girl” is a terrible thing to say.

  16. Maddie

    February 3rd, 2016 at 9:16 PM

    When you say your DAUGHTER throws like a GIRL it makes no sense. She is a girl….. there is no one way for a girl to throw and your son throwing LIKE A GIRL?? Why do you choose to force such harsh gender stereotypes on such young children. Absolutely disgusting. Just because your son can’t pitch flawlessly as a toddler doesn’t mean he “throws like a girl”. Don’t relate everything bad or “non-masculine” to how a girl throws. There is no correlation. I hope you eventually realize that this article is demeaning and sexist as you look back on what you wrote.

  17. A girl who will pitch straight at ur tiny dick

    February 3rd, 2016 at 9:18 PM

    ur pathetic.

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