If you’re a coach or a parent that has a pitcher that won’t listen to a word you say, in fact does the opposite…you’d be a fool not to read this post.
How many times have you heard a parent or a coach say…”He just won’t listen to me, I’ve told him the same thing a thousand times!”
Maybe he realizes you’re a jackass? Ok, that was a little harsh, I know. Let’s go with, maybe, just maybe…”You’re going about this all wrong.”
Instead of asking a question that’s really designed to put you on a pedestal, making you the smartest guy in the room…why not go JUCO style and ask for the answer he already knows?
Talking about getting your players engaged on a whole new level….this is Yoda type stuff, trust me.
Last night I was consulting with one of my clients over the phone and his dilemma was one we all face at some point. He wanted to know how he could get his son to buy in.
During the conversation, I receive an email and wouldn’t you know it….it was a coach asking for advice because his players…
“Weren’t buying in.”
So, what do you do? Write them off? Blame them for not listening…Call them uncoachable?
Nope. You do what any 1st grade teacher would do.
You start by asking them questions they already know the answers to. Yeah, that’s right, you step off your pedestal and empower them. Nobody wants to feel like a “dumb***” and let’s face it…When it comes to pitching, there’s a misconception.
The current belief is “technical jargon” and “BIG words” rule…If you speak in a crowded room and nobody understands what you’re talking about, well, that means you’re smarter.
You’re the expert.
If you didn’t know what you were talking about you wouldn’t be using such BIG words, would you?
There’s a belief that you must hold a PhD in pitching mechanics and that simplicity is equivalent to…
What’s wrong with what I just said? Why are all the teachers, grammar nerds and avid spell checkers wiggling in their seats?
That’s right, I just spelled IDIOCRACY wrong on purpose.
Maybe that was over some of your all’s heads, let’s try another one. This time we’ll go with an example from one of the most annoying characters on television, Dora The Explorer.
My three year old sits in front of the tv jumping out of her seat and raises her hand every time Dora the Explorer comes on.
Heck, I find myself doing the same thing.
Anyways, Dora would make a heck of a baseball coach because she gets it… she understands that if she’s going to keep her audience, the majority of which is illiterate, to buy in, what does she do?
She’s got to ask questions. But not just any questions…
“Buy In” questions.
Questions, a group of illiterate, uneducated toddlers are comfortable answering. Questions they already know the answer to!
Want to make someone feel smart? Ask them a question they already know the answer to and watch how quickly they respond.
On the other hand, if you want to continue complaining about your kids not ‘buying in’ keep on being the smartest guy in the room and see where that gets you. Because at the end of the day, it’s not a matter of how much you know…
It’s about how much your kids understand…And let’s face it, if you really want your kids to feel good about what you’re teaching….
Start by making them feel good about themselves.
It doesn’t take a genius to figure this out…and the quicker you begin to make your kids feel empowered, the quicker they will start to ‘buy in”.
Don’t believe me? Put your kid in front of Dora the Explorer and see what happens.
Trust what you FEEL!